He bade me a nice day as he pasted a kiss on my forehead. I am sure to have the kiss on my lips when he returns, even when i fall asleep his touch on my lips will wake me.
Its been 40 years of our marriage. He has still been making me feel like when i just got married to him. Nothing changed about him except for the gray hairs that are now shooting out. He carries me around in his hands not minding that i am not strong as i used to be when we got married. He would always tell me, "my jewel, if you say i should stop carrying you, who else will i carry". I would blush and release myself into his hand and like a baby basking in his love. Carrying me becomes an exercise i now long for and would remind him when he seems to forget.
He never stopped to tell me he loves me. No matter how busy he seems to be in the office, he would call... Sometimes just to say, 'I love you'. I love his romantic and poetic messages that he sends to me everyday. He enjoys the way i lavish him with love too. He enjoys my voice as I do sing for him. We have a song we both learnt together and he enjoys it so much.
He enjoys my meal and would always tell me he found it difficult to eat outside. Taking a cooler along to office has been a thing he enjoys doing. And i have made up my mind to give him the best because if i don't, WHO WILL???
Even when we seem to have some issues, that is when he joins me most in kitchen. Seeing him with me those times would melt me as i would wonder the kind of person he is. That is when he wants to do more. He has never refused to eat my food because of issues at home.
Moreover, issues do not see next day. Immediately, he would arrange what he calls "family court". He would always want me to air all my grievances first. I may even burst into laughter before i finish mine because he would pay total attention all along to what i have to say before he says his own. We would bring out our wrongs and address it. Fine and apology would follow. We call it "a fine of love". The first fine i got was to cook a delicious meal for the family with my money alone for a week. I gladly did it because i love cooking for them; because they enjoy my meal. His own first fine was to cook alone for every body. My kitchen was messed up that day but it was fun watching him cook for us. We all laughed and had fun that day because it was like a drama. He told us he would cook better. We applauded him after he cooked because he really tried. He must have watched me to learn those styles. Lolz. If the issue is just between both of us, none of our children will know of it nor the settlement. The court will be for the two of us only. Our children didn't know that he was serving punishment the day he actually cooked. Though some other times, he wants to do the same. My children hear only what is meant for their ears. We are both judges when our children do wrongs. They know us that we will get to the root of it.
Family altar was never neglected. We knew the family was put together by God and as such its altar must burn with fire if it must stand tall. We both recognize the place of God in the family. We hold hands to pray in the bedroom each day before the general devotion.
Hmmmmmm! Let me stop here for now...
Who says marriage of this century will not work ??? . Marriage is what God has ordained by Himself, if it is not working, it is the parties involved that got it wrong. Marriage succeeds by a concerted efforts. Marriages still work. God is still making it work.
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